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Bunkhouse Living Reflection 1

While most people will hopefully never have to live in a one room house (Walton style) with their family for nearly a year, I want to share a few things I have learned in the year we spent as a family of 4 in a space with one wall – to separate the bathroom.  **Sidenote – – Now that I reflect on that one wall, really what was the point, with a 2 and 3 year old do you ever get alone time in the bathroom, absolutely NOT!**

Anyway a few tips on bunkhouse living:

Keep It Simple.  I’m talking about everything – DSC07957

keep your cooking simplified, the less ingredients the better,

DSC07956keep your clothes thinned down, after a house fire, not that big of a deal right?  Wrong – we were so fortunate to be gifted oodles of clothing, we kept what fit and donated the rest back to the less fortunate in the area.

TOYS – are your worst enemy and your best friend.  Buy a few organizers and try (key word TRY) to teach your littles to cleanup, only get one to  y at a time, etc.

Storage – there is none – meaning create your own, pinterest will be your best friend, as will under your bed (make sure you get some bed frames so you have that handy area to throw things

Patience.  Keep working on being patient.DSC07610

When the kids can’t handle not having their own space – send them outside, 0 degree, snowing, raining, beautiful out, doesn’t matter, dress them up and send them out for a few minutes to play and get that energy out.

Same for the Husband.

Hell, same for you! Probably most important for the matriarch of the family to keep her own sanity.  Somehow, find 2 minutes to be by yourself – shower, eat a piece of chocolate, drink a glass of wine (don’t relax when you do this, you will never get through it, drink it like you mean it).

  • IMG_4004Love.  Find love in everything.
    • I learned that I love to just be outside listening to the kids talk to the cattle, horses, dogs, cats, anything that moves.

I learned to love those you don’t even know, help those who need it, even if it is just sending some clothes their way, a smile, a friendly hello. Love.

    • Love the livestock that keep you sane as you get to ride through them to check for lameness.
    • Love the fact that without this experience you wouldn’t know how strong you are.

 

Prozac.  Oh yes, that nice little pill that mellows a person out.

    • FullSizeRenderSome will never say they need it, some may rely on it, some need it but won’t take it.
    • I went to the doctor about 3 weeks after the fire, still having tears running down my face, uncontrollable mood swings and I was a complete wreck.  I told him about everything and said I need prozac and birth control ASAP!  He completely obliged and was so helpful.
    • After a year I have slowly quit the old prozac and realize that there are times in your life you need help, prayers are always good, but sometimes it just isn’t enough, so “Hey Doc – hand over the good stuff” 🙂
    • Some people will read this and think wow – she is talking about being on an antidepressant.  I hope that no one ever feels ashamed, sad, or anything of the sort if they need that extra help, I certainly don’t have any problems with it and you shouldn’t either!

It is much easier to reflect on bunkhouse living while having a few minutes at the end of your day where it is just you to relax, write, and remember how far you have come in just one year!

Wishing you a very Happy Superbowl Sunday!  Go Broncos!  Oh wait – – –

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Moving Day!

It was only a matter of time, we all knew there was an end to living in the bunkhouse.  I honestly thought we would be in the house by October, but here it is January and we have finally moved in.  Last night was the first night in the new house, it was amazing.  As we moved in beds and dressers and the bare necessities, it dawned on me that nearly a year ago we lost everything but the things that matter most in life, our family.

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Its really the small things that you begin to recognize after those type of situations and over the past 24 hours here are a few things that I have been thinking about.

  • How amazing it is to walk around barefoot in your house (not something you do in a bunkhouse with carpet that is over 40 years old – yes a remodel is in order but we need a construction break!)
  • Remembering to take a minute to run your bare feet through carpet.
  • That our little girl is so thrilled to have her very own space.
  • And our little boy is so unsure of the new space it makes me wary, after all for 1/2 of his life he has lived in the bunkhouse with us right there.
  • How do we handle not seeing the kids every minute of the day in a one room home and allowing them the distance to grow and become individuals?!
  • We have a lot of adjusting to do to living in space – that goes for us and the kids.
  • What?!  More than 1 toilet?  I don’t have to send someone out to use nature if someone else is using the bathroom WHOO HOO!
  • How long will it take us to get used to hearing a furnace?
  • How long will it take before I use up all my cupboard space in the kitchen?!  6 cupboards to 20 (one is an entire pantry)???   CRAZY!
  • I can’t believe how much I have missed having some hanging out time with The Rancher in the evenings – we watched a television show tonight!!  HOLY COW!
  • This was the first night in 350+ days that the kids have slept in a separate area from both The Rancher and I,  It was pretty good really, only a few hiccups!

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Despite the picture – they actually did sleep in their very own bedrooms!

There is so much more and I cannot even think about it all,  we have come so far in just a year, and the kids have grown up so much in that little time, we are so blessed.  It is truly still amazing to build a home by yourselves, on a super tight budget, and have it all come together just as you had imagined.  This home is everything we could have hoped for I will get a video tour together as soon as the kitchen countertops are in tomorrow!

Thank you to everyone for all of the support, prayers, and gifts, we surely couldn’t have made it through the last year without each of you.