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Kids will be Kids – No matter where they Grow up!

DSC08467I was a lucky one I guess.  My Dad always insisted on living in the country, we may not have had a huge place growing up, but we always had outside space to play and explore in without worry about traffic, predators (other than a coyote here and there), or hearing the neighbors!  How amazing that was to have back then.  We had each other, just our siblings for the most part, unless we traveled via horse or bike to the nearest neighbors.  We had to bike to the neighbors to play in their barn (it was of course, way cooler than ours) always listening for Dad’s whistle calling us home for supper, We pretended to play Army in the tree groves in the pastures, we enjoyed being able to enjoy riding horse through many pastures to the next place to visit and of course play in the closet creek we could find! DSC07786

I do remember we spent one summer living in town, oh how I was so jealous for a while after that summer.  Biking on pavement paths, walking to the ice cream parlor, just a few blocks to the bowling alley, just a quick drive to the park, not to mention friends in the same neighborhood (meaning you didn’t have to jump on a horse, bike, or in a car to get to). Oh and I almost forgot – FAST FOOD!   I always thought that was the life, I enjoyed college, being in town, just a moments jump to whatever we needed.

Now that I have kids of my own, looking back there really is amazing things in both Country living and City living, it is just a toss up of how you wanDSC07573t your family to experience life.  As I watch my own children growing up in the country on the ranch, able to play in their very own private creek and dams  (shared with all the neighbors kids of course), able to go learn to pick wildflowers and enjoy picking and eating as many wild berries as they can get their hands on, able to look out their window and step foot in the horse pasture with horses just waiting for them.  Not to mention the occasional sighting of black bears, snowmobiling without having to drive anywhere, and exploring little caves (dugouts really :P).

I realize that this is the life I (whoops, I mean WE) chose for them.  I hope someday they will look back and also realize how amazing their childhood was and be grateful for all they were able to experience living out on the ranch.

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Life Lessons

Sometimes Life Lessons are so hard to learn.  I’m not talking about simple ones, like don’t pull the dogs tail, or keep your fingers away from that door.  The hard ones.

I’m not sure how to teach my kids about life and death, especially the death part.  We have lost several friends over the past year that are close to us and who are kids know.  My Skeeter Bug is continually asking about these people, their deaths, and “Mom, They are in Heaben.”  (Yes she has a tough time with ‘v’) she will tell me.   So I think that she understands some of the concept of they are a long ways from here.  But does she get that they never will be back at our house for coffee, or pick her up and swing her so high in the air its like she is flying, or make it out to explore Montana with us?

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However, being only 3, how much can they really understand at such a young age?

 

Today we had to put down Nora’s horse, “Ringo.”  Now although he had only been ridden bareback by her and wasn’t quite broke, this horse was Nora’s horse.  If you asked her she would tell you, “Ringo is MY horse.”  It broke my heart to have to put him down today, I’m awrful.  I’m a sap, we have only owned him for 7 months, but I have such a hard time with those types of things.  He was hurting very bad, he must have taken quite the fall or something out here on the mountain but there was no coming back from it.  The Rancher and I did our best to explain that he was hurt very bad and would not be coming  back.  She said her goodbyes but does she really understand that he isn’t going to be in the corrals to greet her anymore?  She won’t be able to feed him grain anymore?  That he will not be the first horse to come up to her in the pasture when we are picking wildflowers?

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I have no idea if she understands it.  How early do you explain these things?  Life and Death is a major part of life for ranch kids, it is everyday living.   This parenting this gets tough by the day, its the best part of my life, and by far the hardest.   But currently we are outside, the kids are playing (together and not fighting…write that down!), and I am writing this blog and working.  So the day has a sad tone to it, the sun is shining, kids are laughing and birds are singing.

Wishing you all a fun adventurous day!